Crazy Times and the Family Sandwich

Crazy times, right?

So much stress, with our retirement investments shrinking and our health concerns growing, whole families are in crisis.

Here at Sterk Family Law, we are in the crisis management business. We have an attorney, Joan van Oss, who has a concentration in serving the 50+ community. Joan is aware of the special nature of the middle-aged person, who is trying to care for their older parents, while trying to care for their younger children, while trying to keep a good relationship with their adult children so that they have access to their grandchildren, all while trying to take care of themselves! All of this, and contemplating divorce. Our clients can barely cope with one more problem.

Joan calls it the family sandwich. Are you in a family sandwich? You know, you must deal with the sandwich as a whole, you can’t break it down into its component parts because you will lose the sandwich.

Our goal at Sterk Family Law is to educate and serve our families, our clients. You may be invested up, down, and sideways, and you may be overwhelmed with your obligations in all directions – but we can help with your stress level by providing you with options.

Speaking of investing, are you invested in the stock market? How’s that working out for you? We firmly believe in Benjamin Franklin’s words: “an investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.”That’s why we are here at Sterk Family Law, offering to empower you with options, so that you may invest in knowledge.

If you’re anything like us, sometimes Murphy’s Law is all the law you have. We have our share of days when we feel like anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. How do we gain the confidence that we have the power to change that?

Our traditional way of thinking makes us look for cause and effect. It leads us to try to place blame on outside forces when things go wrong. That may be satisfying in the moment, but it doesn’t really help us solve the problem – and soon we are right back where we started, or maybe even worse off than before. Thinking in the traditional linear way is like looking carefully at and analyzing one piece of the puzzle. But we don’t step back to look at how that piece fits into and contributes to the whole puzzle. It is only when we understand the connections that we can take control and get to a solution better than we ever have before.

Look at your own puzzle pieces: Do you have concerns about physical health? Financial health? Mental health? Emotional loneliness? Weird viruses?

Of course you do! You have these puzzle pieces now. You have these concerns now. It is not a question of IF you connect your puzzle pieces, but WHEN.

Prepare yourself by calling Sterk Family Law, and start gaining power over your future. We can help you implement an estate plan to ensure your directives are followed. We can also help you address marital and child-related issues.

Call us. We’re here to help. Please contact Sterk Family Law to schedule a free consultation with one of our lawyers or call 815-600-8950.


This is a legal advertisement from Sterk Family Law Group. It does not constitute legal advice and should not be construed as such. This article is for informational and educational purposes only.

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