COVID-19 Mindset Reset

There is no doubt that the COVID-19 virus has us all feeling frightened, uneasy, frustrated and unsure of what tomorrow will bring.

Being quarantined is new to most of us and it can definitely make you take on a victim mentality. Because it feels frightening to face a whole new environment without the people, the things or the places we’ve been so used to we become prisoners of our own negative creation!

Being confined by this virus has caused many of us to unintentionally sacrifice our own well-being, happiness, and success. We choose to stay in our self-limiting beliefs when we should really be moving on, moving forward.

As I have said to many people including myself, ‘’If you’re unhappy with your life, it’s your responsibility to change it.’’ You don’t need to redesign your life. You’re not broken. Everything you need to make the changes are already inside of you.

Why are we so quick to allow negative circumstances to consume us? It is ok to get beaten by circumstance but it’s not acceptable to stop moving forward. We often let the flow of negative emotions control our reactions, creating more failure. When this occurs it’s time to Rise UP!! 

I personally took this time as an opportunity to re-engage the family in activities, like a movie and game nights with my wife, two children, and myself all in one room with popcorn, chips and hot chocolate. We also work on house projects together, like pulling a closet apart and reorganizing it. This valuable time together gives us an opportunity to just talk about anything like friends. 

Be Grateful

Today I am grateful…grateful for life’s challenges. For it’s in those challenges that we are afforded an opportunity to show our true character and strengthen ourselves.

We as a family decided to prepare and have dinners together. Cal and I will be making chili in one crockpot as Monica and Sydney work on something else. I work out with my son every day and my wife works out with our daughter. We get to go for walks on nice days and play catch in the yard. 

I appreciate the small things in life, like the warmth of the sun on my skin. I value my relationships more. I have learned the hard way that true beauty and strength come from within, and it was one of the greatest lessons I’ll ever learn.

I have taken advantage of this unwelcomed circumstance by reading more, learning how to utilize technology like Zoom and other useful resources.  We have optimistically embraced this abundance of time we have all been given to strengthen ourselves and our relationships.

All you need to do is transfer your thoughts and actions towards creating your new story! When you make the decision to empower yourself through detaching from your old story, your life will change dramatically.

The ultimate measure of a person is not where he or she stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he or she stands at times of challenge and controversy.

This is a tip you will remember; CTRL + ALT + DEL

Control Yourself

Alter your thinking

Delete negativity

Being present, living each moment with intention, and continuing to walk the path will make the journey, not a trial, but an adventure of learning and growing. Keep walking, keep smiling, keep living!

Contributed by Brian Swift, S.O.A.R Swift Outdoor Accessible Recreation

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Whether you are a current client or if you are looking for family law or estate planning assistance, our team is here for you and will continue to be available to address your concerns.

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