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When going through the process of divorce, getting out of bed each morning can be, for some, a daunting task. To maintain a healthy lifestyle, it is essential for one to sleep eight hours a night, eat at least three nutritious meals a day, and drink 8 glasses of water daily as well as fit in daily exercise. As simple as that may sound, completing that on a day-to-day basis can be overwhelmingly difficult for many, and not many adults can accomplish that on a regular basis, divorce or not.  When you actually think about it, humans have a lot of upkeep. We have to constantly groom ourselves, i.e. brush your teeth, wash your face, shower, style your hair, shave, etc. We have to constantly hydrate and feed ourselves and many struggle with consuming healthy meal choices that have the nutrients that our body needs. You have to constantly grocery shop, clean, do laundry, exercise, sleep, etc. And if you have children, you have to make sure their basic daily needs are met as well as get them to and from school, activities and other appointments. 

Mind, body, and soul are important to maintain during the divorce process. Get back in touch with your spirit, whatever that may be.  Whether it is with the church, a support group, a pastor, get that spirit back.  Mental self-care will assist you to think clearer, focus, concentrate, manage time, plan, make decisions, and remember.  For your mental care, avoid negative people, rethink your new obligations, don’t be self-critical, and go out on a limb and do something different.

If divorce is taking a toll on your mental health and you find yourself in a depressed state of mind, getting out of bed is just the first challenge. You could be sleeping too little or too much, stress eating anything and everything, or have no appetite to eat at all. Everyone handles stress, depression, and change differently, but every single person needs to take responsibility and strive for their basic care needs in order to get healthy or maintain their health. Make goals for yourself to at least go for a walk a day, fresh air and sunshine will do wonders. If the weather does not permit, do some indoor stretching and exercises to maintain good health. Eat nutritious meals containing lots of vegetables and fruit and drink water constantly above everything else.  These basic steps may seem simple for some but hard for others. It is alright to cry, just take one day at a time. Take baby steps towards these goals and you will get there. 

Self-care is often overlooked while this struggling process is going on.  It is ok to be vulnerable, give yourself a break, you are human.  You are encouraged to join a support group, surround yourself with friends and loved ones, exercise, and enjoy life.  Have you tried yoga or meditation?  It may not be a bad time to start a journal, write letters, or write a book. Give yourself permission to change your hair color or length. With daily positive affirmations and a reduction of stress (as much as you can), you can be well on your way to reinventing a new you after the storm. 

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This is a legal advertisement from Sterk Family Law Group. It does not constitute legal advice and should not be construed as such. This article is for informational and educational purposes only.


This is a legal advertisement from Sterk Family Law Group. It does not constitute legal advice and should not be construed as such. This article is for informational and educational purposes only.